Blog

Why LGBT Pride is Essential to Me as a Therapist

LGBT Pride holds immense significance for me as a therapist because it represents a powerful celebration of identity, equality, and the resilience of the LGBTQ+ community. As an individual who actively supports and fights for the rights of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community, I firmly believe that Pride events play a vital role in promoting awareness, fostering inclusivity, and inspiring positive change. In this article, I will outline the reasons why LGBT Pride is essential to me as an therapist.

1. Celebrating Diversity:

LGBT Pride events are a vibrant and joyous celebration of the diversity within the LGBTQ+ community. They provide a platform to honor the vast range of sexual orientations and gender identities that exist, highlighting the beauty and uniqueness of each individual. Pride festivals, parades, and gatherings allow us to come together and embrace our differences, fostering a sense of belonging and unity among all members of the community.

2. Visibility and Awareness:

Pride events create a significant impact by increasing the visibility of the LGBTQ+ community. They offer an opportunity for individuals to express their authentic selves, free from fear or judgment. By showcasing our pride and courage, we challenge societal norms, dispel stereotypes, and raise awareness about the challenges faced by the community. This visibility can be a catalyst for change, breaking down barriers and promoting understanding and acceptance among people from different walks of life.

3. Empowerment and Inspiration:

Attending Pride events, I have witnessed the incredible empowerment they provide to individuals struggling with their sexual orientation or gender identity. Pride acts as a source of inspiration, reminding people that they are not alone and encouraging them to embrace their true selves without fear. It offers a safe space where individuals can find support, connect with others who share similar experiences, and gain the confidence to live authentically.

4. Advocacy and Activism:

LGBT Pride serves as a platform for advocacy and activism, where the voices of the community can be amplified. Pride events often involve marches, rallies, and educational sessions that focus on raising awareness about LGBTQ+ rights, combating discrimination, and promoting equality. As an advocate, Pride gives me the opportunity to actively engage with others, share knowledge, and collaborate with like-minded individuals and organizations to create lasting change.

5. Commemorating Progress and Resilience:

Pride events not only celebrate the progress that has been made in terms of LGBTQ+ rights but also commemorate the struggles and resilience of the community. They serve as a reminder of the battles fought and the sacrifices made by those who came before us, laying the groundwork for the rights and freedoms we enjoy today. Pride honors the journey towards equality and justice, motivating us to continue the fight for those who still face discrimination and oppression.

For me, LGBT Pride is an incredibly important and powerful movement. As an therapist and an advocate, it represents an opportunity to celebrate diversity, increase visibility, empower individuals, advocate for rights, and commemorate the progress made by the LGBTQ+ community. Pride events not only bring together people from all walks of life but also inspire us to create a more inclusive and accepting society. By embracing our pride and supporting Pride events, we take a step forward in ensuring that every individual, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity, can live with dignity, respect, and equality.

Good Bye Crack!

During one of the STOPP substance abuse groups,  we held a contest and asked group members to submit a break-up letter to their drug of choice or to their addiction as a whole. We received four entries. This is one of the letters….Show your love by leaving a like or a comment!!

“Dear Crack Cocaine, 

It started out as fun. When you came into my life I had no worries, no pain, and I didn’t care about family or friends. You made me feel happy all the time. Nothing lasts forever and something changed. I lost my apartments and spent all my money on you. I hit bottom and I hated myself. So one day I said “That’s enough.” I picked myself up and threw you out of my life. Now today I can say I love myself and you cannot have me anymore! 

Sincerely, 

Your ex.”

Mindfulness is the Answer!

Have you ever been talking to someone but your mind has made so many comments you lost track of the conversation and were unable to reply? Or have you ever been driving and realized you passed the street you had to turn on because you were caught up in your thoughts? We are consistently thinking, constantly analyzing to the point we function out of habit, “on autopilot.” day after day, We race to drop kids off, get to work, then back to pick up kids, get home, to cook, shower, sleep and repeat. Life becomes routine, it gets boring. Life is passing by us yet we’ve missed most of it.

The human mind capable of storing facts, faces and a range of information. It helps us solve small and big problems, an extraordinary problem solver it is. The mind can solve complex problems and be the ticket to success but it can also become our own enemy. Problem solving can turn to overthinking,worry and ruminating. It can create thoughts, all day, all night, everyday, endlessly. Thought after thought, the mind hijacks our attention; it takes us into the future, then throws us into the past, thinking and rethinking the “what if’s” and endless worrying that can lead to anxiety and depression.

Is there a way to stop the mind from thinking? from worrying? from chattering on and on? Yes, there is a way. Mindfulness.

John Kabat-Zinn, founder of the Stress Reduction Clinic at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center, defines mindfulness as “the awareness that arises through paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment and non-judgmentally.” Mindfulness is said to improve both mental and physical health; It helps relieve stress, depression and anxiety.

Mindfulness, in simplest terms, is paying attention, on purpose and connecting with the present moment. When you pay attention mindfully, you are able to enjoy each and every moment in the present as it happens. Washing dishes, showering or eating you completely engage and immerse yourself in the activity, noticing every detail and savoring every aspect of the activity. Staying present quiets the mind and releases you from future worrying and reliving past situations. Now, you can start to fully participate in your life, now, in the present moment.

So, how can you be mindfulness and begin living life? Here are 3 Simple mindfulness exercises you can begin practicing immediately, anywhere and anytime. Keep in mind, as you practice being mindful thoughts will show up. You may get thoughts you’re doing something wrong, this doesn’t work, I can’t do this, and so on. That’s ok, it’s normal. Just notice you had the thought and continue to breathe in and out.

Mindful breathing

Allow yourself to notice the flow of your natural breath, as the air comes in through your nostrils and goes out through your mouth….in…..out…..in….out. Now notice how your lungs expand as they fill with air when you inhale and deflate as you breathe out and exhale… inhale…….and exhale. Now notice how the abdomen rises as you breathe in and flattens as you breathe out. Allow your attention to gently ride each breath, not thinking about how you breathe, without the need to comment. Simply noticing your breath as you inhale…..and exhale.

5 senses

Start off noticing the natural flow of your breath. Lets turn your attention to one of your five senses….sight, hearing, touch, smell or taste. Allow yourself to look around the room and name 5 things that you see 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. Next, stay still and listen to the sounds around you. Name 5 things you hear for example the birds chirping, cars passing by, music playing. If there is music playing try to focus on specific instruments playing. Make it a point to distinguish between different beats or instruments. Try describing 5 different things you can touch, smell and taste.

Mindful walking

As you walk, focus your attention on any sensations felt throughout your body. Step by step, feel the contact each foot makes with the ground. Step by step notice which part of your foot strikes the ground first at the beginning of each step? Your toes…..your heel… Now, notice which part of your foot leaves the ground last at the end of each step? Toes…..heels……As you continue to walk and take one mindful step after another begin to notice how your knees bend as you walk, notice the flexing and contracting of your muscles in your calves, feeling any soreness or sensation that may arise. Next, notice your arms as they swing front and back….front and back. Notice how they lightly touch your hips as they swing back and forth. Don’t change anything about the way you walk, just notice even the slightest detail of how you walk.

Noticing or describing thoughts as they come and go can be added into any mindfulness exercise, for example, “ I am having the thought that..,” or you can silently note “thinking” and continue the exercise. You can name each individual feeling by name, for example “anger,” “boredom,” “happy.” When thoughts arise, You could use a phrase like, “it’s a thought.” You can be even more specific, and note your thoughts by categories, for example ‘judging’, ‘worrying’, ‘analyzing’, ‘remembering’, Or simply: ‘anxious thought’, ‘sad thought’, ‘neutral thought’; ‘thought about the future’, ‘thought about the past’ etc. If an emotion or feeling arises you can silently notice the feeling or emotion. You could use a phrase like, “it’s a feeling” or “I am feeling __.” Throughout the day be mindful and observe any thoughts or feelings that show up. This is useful and practical in the beginning of your mindful practice when you continuously get distracted by different thoughts, feelings or judgments. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to do this. The point is to practice and be mindful.

Begin your mindful practice today. Curiously Noticing your surroundings, becoming aware and opening up the possibilities right in front of you. Start Living life in the present moment.

Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery, Today is a gift.

Our true home is not in the past. Our true home is not in the future. Our true home is in the here and the now. Life is available only in the here and the now, and it is our true home.~thich nhat hanh~

Daily Prompt: Courage

What are you most afraid of?  Is it your past? Fear of being abandoned?  Shame of what you have done?   Your family, friends, a loved one or even a sponsor can help you overcome what you fear.  If it’s keeping you your from being sober you have to face it.

What you fear the most, you have to face; find the COURAGE and face it. You already took the most courageous step, starting the recovery journey!

via Daily Prompt: Courage

Recovery: Addiction’s Alternative

Recovery, an

Eye opening experience in which you

Compassionately

Overcome temptation while

Vigilantly

Engaging in new

Responsibility, one day at a time

You can do it. What are you waiting for?

Addiction can confiscate your mind and body. But there’s an alternative, Recovery.

Mnemonic for Recovery.

Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day 2018

Together we can prevent new HIV infections. BMC and STOPP commit to saving and prolonging the lives of African American’s locally, nationally, and internationally!

Nationwide prevention efforts have led to declines in new HIV diagnoses among some populations,  including African American women, people who inject drugs and heterosexuals. However,  overall African Americans face the most severe burden of HIV diagnoses compared to other races and ethnicities. Testing is critical in order to prevent HIV in all ethnicities and within all communities.

Today, February 7, 2018, is National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day.  Nationwide attention focuses on the impact HIV has on African Americans. For over 15 years, this day is observed  in efforts  to increase HIV education, testing, community involvement and treatment among Blacks.  Spread the word…get tested today!

African American enrolled in Borinquen’s STOPP Program educate their family and friends about HIV  to prevent HIV from spreading.  This is what they say:

“I use condoms in every sexual occasion.” “I make my family a part of my medical treatment so that together we can learn about HIV.” ~E. Y.~
“I teach my friends to have safe sex and use condoms.” ~D.C.~
“I keep myself informed by asking my doctor and attending Lunch and Learn here at Borinquen. The information I learn I pass it on when my family and friends get together.”

“I do my best to stay off drugs, go to groups and share my story with others. By educating others and being open about my HIV status I hope to see the HIV epidemic to end. ~S.M.~

Together we can prevent new HIV infections. BMC and STOPP commit to saving and prolonging the lives of African American’s locally, nationally, and internationally!

Borinquen Medical Center (BMC) offers FREE HIV testing, counseling, prevention and education to all of Miami Dade County.  At the main site, 3601 Federal Highway, on the 1st floor, and at the Behavioral Health Office, 100 NE 38 St, Unit 5, HIV counselors are available Monday- Thursday, 8 am – 5 pm, and Friday, 8 am – 4 pm. Come by today.

Get Educated!  Get Tested! Get Involved!!

References:

https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/statistics/overview/ataglance.html

Valentine’s Day in Recovery

Red hearts, pink hearts, candy hearts, chocolate hearts, sugar cookies, love cards. Theres no way around it, you can’t escape it, Valentine’s Day is here!    If you’re  in a romantic relationship, spend time together and multiply your love for each other.  If you’re single, don’t despair, shower yourself with love and think about how far you’ve come, staying clean and sober.   No matter your current situation, this day can be fun and enjoyable, sober and all!!  Here are some tips to spread love and kindness this Valentine’s Day:

1. Send messages of love to those you care about, friends, family, coworkers, neighbors. Call, send a text, reach out and express how much they mean to you and how grateful you are to have their support in your life. The biggest gift you can give a loved one is that you remain clean and sober.

2. Start rebuilding damaged relationships. When in active addiction, you tend to focus on yourself and don’t realize how your loved ones feel. Relationships get damaged. On Valentine’s Day, take a step towards rebuilding those relationships that got damaged. Send a friend you hurt a valentines card or a short text expressing your appreciation and gratitude. Don’t expect a response, the point is to share how you feel. Remember, it takes time to rebuild relationships.

3. Spend time with loved ones. You are not alone in your recovery. Spend time with friends, family and those who are supportive. Go to a meeting, invite a friend or family member to Starbucks. If you choose to stay in, cook dinner for a friend or loved ones and reminisce on good times.

4. Take care of yourself. Take a bubble bath. Get a haircut. Get a manicure and pedicure (men, you too!). Pamper yourself. Celebrate how far you’ve come. Take a walk in the beach. Go on a picnic or to the movies. Try a new hobby. Rediscover life, clean and sober.

5. Volunteer your time. Volunteering is a great way to give back. Providing service and help to the homeless, poor or others in recovery is an important part of the recovery journey.

You can celebrate and enjoy Valentines while in recovery. Spread love today and every day in February specially to  family, friends and  those special to you. Happy Valentine’s day to all.

Beat The Holiday Blues: 5 Simple Ideas

November and December are supposed to be the happiest months of the year, filled with celebration and joy. But are they? For some, stress, unrealistic expectations and even memories surrounding the holidays can trigger feelings of sadness, loneliness and anxiety, commonly known as the “holiday blues.” There’s no way to avoid or circumvent the holiday season, so what can you do?

The secret to beating the holiday blues is preparation. Arm yourself with a variety of coping skills. if plan A doesn’t work then be ready to use plan B. Here are 5 simple tips to help you through these months and beat the holiday blues….

1. Exercise. Hit the gym. Go for a walk at the park or even around the block. Try to be active for at least 30 minutes.

2. Plan ahead. Prioritize and manage your time accordingly. Make a schedule or a to-do-list. Pace yourself.

3. Stay away from alcohol and drugs, they tend to make you even more depressed in the long run.

4. Sleep at least 5-6 hours. Being tired can put you in a bad mood. Rest.

5. Attend Support groups. Socialize. Volunteer. Reach out to friends and family. Ask for help.

Remember your physical and mental well being come first. Try not to get caught up with “shoulds”… this should be like that, I should feel like that, that should be like this.

It will take some effort on your part to beat the holiday blues but who knows, you may find some holiday joy along the way. What do you think? Comment below…

Happy Holidays.